Do You Resent Happy People?

Once upon a time there was a bird that lived in a cage in dark shadowy room; then one day his cage was moved outside. For the first time he see birds flying free. He watches them dive through the air, sing and play; he sees small birds wrestling in trees, large birds cooing and […]

What’s in Your Basket of Troubles?

By Sean Grover, LCSW A Parable… Once upon a time, there was a lost man who carried around a basket of troubles and wandered the land calling out,“Who will help me with my basket of troubles?” Many pitied him, some laughed at him, but no one helped him. Then one day a king passing by […]

Are You Emotionally Attuned?

by Sean Grover The Secret World of Emotional Attunement When your radio’s tuned properly to your favorite station, the broadcast comes in loud and clear. Without any static or overlap of frequencies, you relax and enjoy the music or the program. When your favorite love song is played on a well-tuned instrument, you’re delighted. You […]

How to Pull a Volcano Out of a Tree

By Sean Grover In the 1970’s my parents fell in love with throwing big outdoor theme parties for friends and family. The aftermath of their parties filled our backyard with oddities which included a twenty foot tall fiberglass Cleopatra (harvested from the 1964 World’s Fair – don’t ask), a collection of enormous rubber tire flower […]

The Loneliness of the People Pleaser

By Sean Grover When someone asks you a favor, do you readily agree and later regret it? Perhaps you say yes, when you really wanted to say no? Afterward, do you feel victimized, lament your decision, or bemoan your fate? If you answered yes to the questions above, congratulations—you’re a people pleaser. You go out […]

How to Be a More Decisive Person

By Sean Grover Do you make a prison of indecision? While playing it safe may be comforting, standing in the shadows, waiting for someone else to decide, or remaining dependent on friends or loved ones to make decisions for you weakens your confidence and chips away at your self-esteem. Being totally at the mercy of […]

What is a Value Creating Life?

Is it possible to create value out of any situation? By Sean Grover Life deals us so many sufferings – loved ones pass, illness occurs, tragedy strikes. In a heartbeat we could be hit with a critical blow we never saw coming, an event that could change the course of our lives forever. The bottom […]

How to Cure Analysis-Paralysis

Breaking Free of Fears that Plague You By Sean Grover “Unfurl the ropes!” The white-haired captain barks as he surveys the wind-bellied sails. My twelve-year-old mind is spinning. Unfurl? What does unfurl mean? I’m clearly in over my head. What have I gotten myself into? The captain points to a large pile of twisted and […]

The Father’s Day Time Machine

“Wrap the extension cord around the gutter and tie a knot!” My father cups his hands and hollers into the wind. “Be careful! Don’t drop the bulbs! They’re expensive!” I inch toward the icy edge of the roof and think for moment. “What about me? Am I expensive?” I lower a rope to him on […]

How to Stop Being a “No” Strategy Parent

by Sean Grover Are you dishing out “No” to your kid without thought or consideration?  Time to hit the Parenting Pause Button “Poppa, can I have some apple pie?” A simple question.  But have you ever tried to reason with a four-year-old around five a.m. on a snowy winter’s morning? Especially when there’s no apple pie […]