Do Your Friendships Pass the Test?

By Sean Grover, LCSW Do your friendships energize and inspire you, or burden and drain you? Recently, I met up with one of my best pals. Like many old friends, we share a secret language, referring to events and situations with a single word or glance. A raised eyebrow, a sideways look, the phrase, “Tell […]

Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places? How to Break the Broken Heart Habit

By Sean Grover, LCSW Last summer, I attended a concert by a famed singer-song writer. When he took command of the stage, you knew you were in the hands of an old pro; someone who had spent a lifetime in the spotlight. But as the concert unfolded, I started to feel distracted; his many bows […]

Therapy Secrets: Is Your Therapist Helping Your Enough?

Getting the Most Out of Therapy By Sean Grover Is your weekly appointment just a time to vent? What do you do when your therapy seems to be going nowhere? Beyond the Honeymoon Chances are you came to therapy because you wanted something – something you felt you couldn’t achieve on your own. You were […]

Where Do You Store Tension in Your Body?

By Sean Grover It was a moment that changed my life. It was about twenty years ago, and I was a patient in a therapy group lead by Dr. Louis Ormont, a pioneer of American group therapy. I was discussing the devastating death of a close friend and the despair I felt. I was in […]

Are You Emotionally Attuned?

by Sean Grover The Secret World of Emotional Attunement When your radio’s tuned properly to your favorite station, the broadcast comes in loud and clear. Without any static or overlap of frequencies, you relax and enjoy the music or the program. When your favorite love song is played on a well-tuned instrument, you’re delighted. You […]

The Loneliness of the People Pleaser

By Sean Grover When someone asks you a favor, do you readily agree and later regret it? Perhaps you say yes, when you really wanted to say no? Afterward, do you feel victimized, lament your decision, or bemoan your fate? If you answered yes to the questions above, congratulations—you’re a people pleaser. You go out […]

Why Do You Avoid Conflicts?

By Sean Grover  When faced with a conflict, do you suffer from the Triple A’s: apologizing, agreeing, and accommodating? Under pressure, are you more likely to compromise or hide your true feelings behind a tense smile or nervous laugh? And afterward, are you still fretting over the situation? If you answered yes to any of […]

How to Be a More Decisive Person

By Sean Grover Do you make a prison of indecision? While playing it safe may be comforting, standing in the shadows, waiting for someone else to decide, or remaining dependent on friends or loved ones to make decisions for you weakens your confidence and chips away at your self-esteem. Being totally at the mercy of […]

How to Resolve Your Fear of Intimacy

Spending too much time alone? Here are a few things to consider. By Sean Grover Sure, intimate relationships improve your life—but do you know they also extend it? In an article in the New York Times by Jane E. Brody, “Forging Social Connections for a Longer Life,” study after study found that people in intimate […]

Therapy Secrets: How Does Your Therapist Feel About You?

The Secret Life of Psychotherapists  By Sean Grover Every day, therapists are bombarded with feelings from their patients: love, hate, rage, yearning, despair. Session after session, people share their secrets, dreams, and fantasies; they confess disappointments, expose painful memories, unearth fears, ambitions, and passions; all while their therapist sits and listens. Have you ever wondered […]