Personality traits that every therapist needs. For nearly 25 years, people in my office have shared their secrets, their fears, and their hopes. They’ve confessed wrongs, explored love and relationships, worked through childhood traumas, explored dreams and nightmares; some lasted a few sessions, others stayed for years. Every now and then, a person asks me, […]
Are you baffled by adolescence? Does your teenager’s behavior trouble you? Welcome to the club. Please step inside my office. Let’s eavesdrop on other parents: “My son doesn’t sleep at night so he can’t wake up in the morning.” “My daughter procrastinates until she has a panic attack, then I have one myself!” “My kid’s […]
By Sean Grover, LCSW Last summer, I attended a concert by a famed singer-song writer. When he took command of the stage, you knew you were in the hands of an old pro; someone who had spent a lifetime in the spotlight. But as the concert unfolded, I started to feel distracted; his many bows […]
Once upon a time there was a bird that lived in a cage in dark shadowy room; then one day his cage was moved outside. For the first time he see birds flying free. He watches them dive through the air, sing and play; he sees small birds wrestling in trees, large birds cooing and […]
Beyond the Honeymoon with Your Therapist Is your weekly appointment just a time to vent? What do you do when your therapy seems to be going nowhere? Chances are you came to therapy because you wanted something – something you felt you couldn’t achieve on your own. You were unhappy or discouraged; maybe you felt […]
“Self-love, my liege, is not so vile a sin as self-neglecting.” William Shakespeare, (Henry V, 2.4.74-75) Self-Neglect & Parenthood Why do so many people seem to unravel after becoming parents? Why do so many marriages self-destruct? Of the many kinds of the parenting dilemmas I see in my office, parent burnout is among the most […]
A Parent’s Guide to Happy Child Admit it, you love to see your kid happy; your home is filled with smiling photos grinning from your computer screen, bookshelves, even your refrigerator door. Everyone wants to raise a happy child. But when it comes to raising children, are all forms of happiness considered equal? What kind […]
Everyone Deserves Respect Dr. Wilcox, the head of psychiatry in a leading Manhattan mental health clinic, had a history of erupting in arrogant rages. Like all the interns, I learned to steer clear of him. When he appeared, we vaporized like ninjas into thin air. We escaped through emergency exits; hid in storage closets; or […]
