Tag Archive for: Self-Mastery

Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places? How to Break the Broken Heart Habit

By Sean Grover, LCSW Last summer, I attended a concert by a famed singer-song writer. When he took command of the stage, you knew you were in the hands of an old pro; someone who had spent a lifetime in the spotlight. But as the concert unfolded, I started to feel distracted; his many bows […]

Do You Resent Happy People?

Once upon a time there was a bird that lived in a cage in dark shadowy room; then one day his cage was moved outside. For the first time he see birds flying free. He watches them dive through the air, sing and play; he sees small birds wrestling in trees, large birds cooing and […]

The Holiday Survival Kit: How to Manage Your In-Laws

Why holidays are a financial bonanza for psychotherapists. If you adore your in-laws and delight in their company, consider yourself one of the lucky ones and read no further. But if the thought of spending time with your partner’s family has you activating your body armor and bracing for impact—then this article is for you. […]

Is Your Therapist Helping Your Enough?

Beyond the Honeymoon with Your Therapist Is your weekly appointment just a time to vent? What do you do when your therapy seems to be going nowhere? Chances are you came to therapy because you wanted something – something you felt you couldn’t achieve on your own. You were unhappy or discouraged; maybe you felt […]

How Parents Can Avoid the Self-Neglect Trap

“Self-love, my liege, is not so vile a sin as self-neglecting.” William Shakespeare, (Henry V, 2.4.74-75) Self-Neglect & Parenthood Why do so many people seem to unravel after becoming parents? Why do so many marriages self-destruct? Of the many kinds of the parenting dilemmas I see in my office, parent burnout is among the most […]

The Secret to Gaining Respect

Everyone Deserves Respect Dr. Wilcox, the head of psychiatry in a leading Manhattan mental health clinic, had a history of erupting in arrogant rages. Like all the interns, I learned to steer clear of him. When he appeared, we vaporized like ninjas into thin air. We escaped through emergency exits; hid in storage closets; or […]